Friday, October 22, 2010

What about all the Victims of Russell Williams Crime?

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What about all the Victims of Russell Williams Crime?

“Tell me something happy! I am tired of unhappy! If they have Williams on TV again today – I am going to Scream!” said the Senior Man at the Wellness Centre this morning. He exercises with me each morning and he is now fed up with all the horrible news about Russell Williams!!!

“If I hear another thing about this Russell Williams… I have had enough!” the old lady stated quite bluntly. The old lady is my mother who lives with us.

She spends the better part of each day watching and listening to her TV. And her TV reports a huge amount about this terrible crime and the events that are happening in our area. This TV Station is one of the closer stations to the crime area. So they report about it a lot!

Yesterday in the Senior’s Group, that I run each Thursday afternoon, we talked about it with them. Many had questions that were excellent. Many were overwhelmed by all that was said so far and the dozens of reports they have encountered.

One article I read told of a short interview with folk that live in the community in Ottawa that Russell lived in. That community is in Ottawa.

Neighbours could hardly believe that such a nice man would do such a thing.

Others have had this reporting about their neighbour totally throw them into tail spins – it is just too much.

Stop… whoah… so you don’t want to hear any more! Wow! Too bad for you! You would like to be like everyone… just move on!!!

What about Russell Williams’ wife Mary Elizabeth? What about his family?

These victims of this crime are in horrible places for the rest of their lives!

Russell showed great concern for his wife when the police officer was at the point of discovery of his crime… in the police interrogation room. Russell loved his wife from all appearances and was concerned that he should make it easier on her!!!

It was reported by our different news media services that his wife visited him while he was in jail. “How awful for her to do that!” was one comment that I heard from a friend.

Why would she visit him? She loved him – maybe? Because you hate him… why should she?

Mary Elizabeth is a victim here as well. She will never be looked at again the same way as she was before you discovered what he did.

But then all the family members of the victims will not be the same again… and that is not just the murder victims’ families. That includes the 11, 12, and 13 year old girls’ families as well. Their homes and their daughter’s rooms were violated as well.

Can you imagine the filthy feelings that they each have now?

Would they ever be able to retrieve their underwear from the drawer in their rooms, without thinking that Russell had been there touching everything?

We as a public do not consider the Victims and their families… the horrific state of life changing affairs that have left them frightened and defiled. We get disgusted when another report comes on the news… but what about these folk?

Another Victim of a crime I know, her son had been murdered in our community a number of years ago, simply states that one of the hardest things she dealt with was the horrible way her old friends and one time acquaintances spoke to her…

“Get over it, let it go, we are tired of you talking about this all the time!”

“I don’t know what to do for you. Why don’t you leave me alone?!”

“Deal with it, let it go and move on…”

These are quotes from kind people in the community that Victims of Crime have heard over the years.

So you don’t want to hear any more. Too bad for you!!!

Normally when a man fights the case in court and drags it on and on… we can deal with the anger and hatred we generate… this time we could not hate long enough… now we can and will simmer and have to deal with it.

I am deeply moved by what this man Russell did. I am disgusted about the things he did. I am in revulsion to deepest point yet.

Yet I cannot lose my objectivity in the matter of how the Victim lives from now on. I cannot forget… even if it bugs you to no end.

I am thankful that the courts have dealt with this in the way that they did. Now we will not forget.

~ Murray Lincoln ~
http://www.murraylincoln.com/
SPECIAL NOTE: Please read the following links.. they are a start to understanding how sick this all is.

Source:
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/story/2010/10/18/col-williams-court-1018.html

http://www2.macleans.ca/2010/02/16/the-secret-life-of-colonel-russell-williams/print/

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Murray for remembering the surviving victims. The horrible details that no-one wants to hear are what they must live with every day, and it's a lonely, lonely place to be.

I watched the Lloyd family talk about getting back to their normal lives on the news the other night and my heart broke for them. From personal experience I know that it will be a minimum of ten years before they even begin to feel 'normal'; before the loss of their daughter, and what they have seen, heard and experienced will cease to be front and centre in every waking moment of every single day.

The federal government is pouring millions of dollars into building more prisons. Please, please, could they not put even one of those millions into sorely needed support services for victims of crime?

M

Murray Lincoln said...

It is with very deep emotions personally that I write the words... and they fall so far short of helping. I am humbled that you have read the words. I only wish that we could all do more.

The emotional community effort in Belleville earlier today is perhaps a start for some. But I am worried that it is now being suggested that they can all move on. I seriously doubt that can happen even for a whole community... let alone the individual families.

Grief takes time... not a perscribed time... but as much time as is needed. The horror of the Victim is that others move on ... but they never do. The is far greater that anyone will ever comprehend.

Thank you "M" for your honesty. We are certainly working together for each one.

I have been speaking with the Gov Leaders where possible. Some have heard what was said... question is will they actually hear?

Murray